Build personal boundary

Background：for myself, I'm annoying after a debate, that will make me think too much, I said this in past articles, such like this. Then I find a conc

Barrier in communication

Sometimes, discussion will become a debate.I don't like debate, especially with friend or someone around, here are some of the reasons:The winner of d

Leaving is a lie

Long times ago, I said I would leave someday, it's only a few friends know that.Perhaps it's time now, the situation becomes worse and worse, I can't

After classmate's wedding

It perhaps would be a mess, I just write what I thought.Try to More thinking less feeling. (feeling often lead self-doubt)It's a public post, but it's

人为什么会陷入「如果你不主动找我，就算我想跟你说话也不主动找你」的模式？

我们发现有这样困扰的人似乎很多。犹豫着不敢开始／加入谈话的顾虑大概有：总觉得自己说的话会破坏气氛，觉得没人希望我站在这儿。想要加入谈话时，但觉得自己想说的话一点儿也不“有趣”，别人应该不爱听吧。大家聊天的时候我就像在等一个“谈话红绿灯”，总想等到我可以说话的绿灯时间，但绿灯太短，我抓不住……如果我先